“Judy is such an amazing person…
Brick by brick she helped me take down my walls… and I was able to re-establish a relationship…” ~ Mike F.
Hi. I’m Judy Graybill
Relationship Healer
Certified Stepfamily Coach
Relaxation and Serenity
are in your future!
You Too Can…
Transform Conflict into Emotional Connection,
Even If You’re the Only One Working on it,
Even If You’re Frequently Fighting
Does this sound familiar?
- When you try to talk about the problem, an argument erupts, sometimes explosively.
- You both crave change, but can’t get on the same page.
- You want to move past it, but not sure why nothing’s working.
- You long to feel seen, heard, and validated; instead of misunderstood, undermined, and undervalued.
- You’re tired of feeling like most of the work falls onto your shoulders.
You Have the Power to Transform it!
Imagine having productive conversations! Discuss possible strategies calmly, and jointly choose which ones you’ll try.
Happiness and Harmony become your *set point*! When challenges arise, you utilize new tools to navigate through and return to harmony.
Emotional intimacy will naturally deepen! So will your desire for Date Night, which will end with Quality Time (instead of arguing).
Components to Overcome Obstacles
Realisitic Expectations
Alleviate fears by discovering why your past endeavors didn’t get desired results, while ascertaining what’s possible.
Transcend limiting beliefs with an optimistic yet realistic way forward instead of oscillating between fantastical and catastrophic thinking.
I have the experience and knowledge to give you insightful clarity.
Objective Feedback
Liken me to a Sports Coach who has played the game and understands it from the inside-out.
Without intense emotions, I can see the bigger picture.
I know how to optimize your strengths and mitigate your weaknesses for the betterment of the team.
I have my own playbook.
Together, we’ll develop the best tools for you.
Healing Space
I create a safe space, so you feel comfortable to express yourself freely and completely instead of worrying about the impact.
Healing begins the moment you feel fully seen, heard, and validated for who you truly are.
Organically, you’ll become the next version of your IDEAL SELF.
I support you through this journey.
Side Notes
I am not a therapist, and do not diagnose or treat conditions. Rather, I help people reach their relationship goals.
As part of that, I assist with mental and emotional processing that emerged from the challenges.
My process guides you to trust your inner knowing and feel empowered to act accordingly.
You’re in the driver’s seat, and I’m your co-pilot with GPS.
How Do I Know?
I’ve traveled this path. Everything I advocate, teach, and coach are things I’ve learned personally. I’ve done myself and then coached clients to do.*
I know what it’s like to feel alone working on a strained relationship ~ to give it all you’ve got, keep trying new “solutions” that only result in more arguing, and to be at a complete loss at what to do next or who to turn to.
Friends and family didn’t understand and weren’t able to help.
I've Learned How to...
- Carve a path forward consciously by discerning what I can and cannot directly control.
- Establish healthy boundaries firmly, calmly, and compassionately rather than hyper emotionally.
- Gauge a person’s level of stuckness, often caused by unhealed trauma.
- Navigate difficult conversations that lead to deeper understanding.
- Heal my complex trauma without traditional therapy or medication.
My Story in Brief
My healing journey began in 2008, about one year after I left “my dysfunctional stepfamily experience”, which turned into a toxic environment for me. Leaving was an act of radical self-love.
The ending was amicable, but I was constantly experiencing the effects of complex trauma (although I didn’t know it at the time). My one wish was to feel whole and happy again. Through a series of subjective meaningful experiences and synchronicities over the course of many years, I healed my trauma without traditional therapy or medication.
I found peace of heart and mind, and feel blessed to now be in a healthy supportive environment. At the same time, life happens and stressful situations arise. These have triggered deeper layers to be healed ~ my wounded inner child originating from complex trauma as a child in my family of origin. Thus, it’s more accurate to say that the healing journey is ongoing. However, it’s no longer a treacherous uphill battle, but rather a process of re-stabilizing and returning to my center (a higher *set point*).
*Anomalism: I am single, although I’ve supported dozens of couples to have a stronger partnership. This stemmed organically from my journey of becoming a Certified Stepfamily Coach and of extricating myself from toxic people and situations. Although I choose to be single, I’m grateful and happy to be surrounded by supportive people.
I was very satisfied with our coaching, and found Judy to be reliable. It was most helpful that she brought things to my attention that I was not aware of. As Judy mentioned, any pre-existing issues that are not solved may interrupt the program as they are dealing with parenting stuff. My challenge was accepting that my girlfriend was needing to be part of my parental life. This has helped me to see we have to be a team.
It really did help me see things I was not aware, and gave me ideas on how to deal with things. For me, it was helpful in that regard, and Judy was very helpful when we needed more one on one counseling.
I found Judy’s coaching of high quality, useful, and good value for the money. What was most helpful was just having a person to help us deal with step-family specific issues without going off track to making it personal, even though it really is. I wish I could talk to Judy all the time. She is someone you could see as a friend in your life. My situation has changed by changing my perspective and helping my relationship with my husband be stronger. I’ll definitely be recommending Judy to others.
Judy exceeded my expectations. She helped me down the path on my new journey as a potential step-father. This is all new for me, and she made me think of things I was not aware of at the time. My main challenge was to be a team with my partner and know where I fit in as a stepfather.
Judy is one of the few people I trust with personal things I am going through in life. She has always been there to give me advice and she is great at what she does. I don't open up much to most people, and being a potential step father is new to me. I recommend Judy to any current or future step parent!