Goodbye Confusion and Conflict.

 

Hello Clarity and Connection!

Intimate Relationships test you on every level, even after you’ve “healed” from past “failed relationships”, childhood wounding, or trauma. (Failed relationships don’t really exist, by the way).

Even if you’re frequently arguing, the only one working on it, or are still healing from past trauma, it’s possible to create a partnership that works!

Real Love is Easier to Experience Than You Think

It's Possible to...

Experience emotional intimacy like you’ve never felt before.

Feel appreciated for who you are, and confident that your partner chooses you every day.

Reduce destructive arguments, and increase productive discussions.

Transform fears into deep understanding of yourself and partner.

Embrace your individuality while strengthening your partnership.

Reignite your passion, and bring on the sizzle!

Bask in your newfound harmony, allowing you to fully relax after a long day of work.

It's Not Your Fault!

You don’t know what you don’t know.

What's the Missing Link?

1. not knowing the true underlying problem

Most people chase their tail by only trying to fix the presenting problem. However, there’s invariably unseen factors under the surface that also affect the situation. If you don’t identify and fix them, nothing will change and the problem will keep popping back up.

2. knowing the problem, but not the solution

It’s said that, “Doing anything is better than doing nothing”. But that’s a myth. Doing the wrong thing will lead to undesirable results. Stringing together several wrong actions may even lead to disastrous results. So yes, knowing the best solution is important.

3. not knowing why your tactics didn't work.

It’s possible that your approach just needs to be tweaked. Or perhaps your approach is right, but you didn’t do it long enough to get your desired results. Alternatively, maybe something’s not aligned to you or your partner’s natural personality traits.

4. intense emotions

Past heartbreak or trauma affect how you act and react to new situations and your partner. Fear of repeating past mistakes often lead to making new ones, causing an unhealthy pattern of interaction (behaviors), which can repeat across multiple relationships.

Plus, it’s extra frustrating if you’re experiencing the same problem as in your last relationship. And it’s that much more confusing because you’ve done the inner work to heal from it!

Coach with Judy G

Now is Time to Start a New Chapter (or even a New Book)!

New Choices are Available to You!

I have the experience, skills, and objectivity to help you identify the underlying problem(s), and guide you through overcoming them. Through my coaching process, you’ll organically up-shift your mindset and emotional resonance as you re-calibrate the dynamics of your relationship.

In short, I teach relationship skills while we work through conflict ~ skills you can use the rest of your life! Plus, you’ll feel re-inspired and re-invested in your partnership so the changes will last. Everything I teach, advocate, and share are principles I personally practice and have used to transform my own relationships.

I call it Relationship Healing Integration, because that’s exactly what it is. Heal wounds from the past while you integrate a new upgraded version of yourself into your current relationships.

The 4 Phases of Relationship Healing Integration

Intention

Clarify what you want!

It’s easy to say you want harmony, order, or intimacy. But specifically, what does that look like?

Fears aside, it’s time to be 100% courageously honest with yourself.

Together, we’ll translate your true desires into realistic objectives.

Identification

Deep-dive under the surface.

What’s blocking you and working in your favor?

What are your natural strengths and weaknesses?

Relationships are like fingerprints. This is not a one-size-fits-all fix. Our action plan needs to fit you personally.

Initiation

Break new ground!

Based on what we identified, act and react differently to presenting opportunities (like arguments, unstated resentments, and silent tension).

This creates stepping stones toward a brand new experience, and a brand new you.

Integration

Process, refine, and persist.

Shift your mindset to align with your objectives. Process your emotions.

Clearly ask for what you need. Develop a deeper understanding of your partner’s needs.

Embody a new way of doing your relationship.

The Next Step

Tell me.

Are you ready…

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to understand the problem from a new perspective?

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to take control of your love life?

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to feel the love you know you deserve deep down in your heart?

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to love and be loved deeply and unconditionally?

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to start your Journey to Real Love?

If  “yes”, follow the 3 simple steps below.

1)  Click this link to fill out a brief questionnaire.

  • This gives me an overview of your situation. I’ll review it within 2 business days, and contact you to schedule a personal consultation (so I can understand your specific needs).

2) Schedule and attend a personal consultation with me.

  • We’ll discuss your biggest challenges, obstacles, and a possible roadmap of your relationship journey (i.e. your specific needs).
  • The purpose is mutually beneficial in that it assures both of us that we’re the right fit to work together on the next leg of your journey.

3) Choose a coaching package, based on your needs and budget.*

  • Payment plans are available.
  • *If these don’t fit your needs and you fall within certain criteria, I’m willing to customize a package for you.

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Yes, Sign Me Up!

Goldfinch

6 weeks
$1497 / $777/couple / 1 partner
  • 6 live coaching sessions
  • both individual and couple sessions
  • weekly homework or action steps
  • unlimited support in-between sessions
  • recordings of sessions available upon request
  • lifetime discount to eligible services
This one's for me!

Hummingbird

6 weeks
$997 / $499/couple / 1 partner
  • 3 live coaching sessions, bi-weekly
  • both individual and couple sessions
  • clear action steps
  • extra support: up to 2 hrs phone, unlimited email
  • recordings of sessions available upon request
  • lifetime discount to eligible services
This one's for me!

Sparrow

DIY w/ guidance
$497 / $247/couple / 1 partner
  • 2 live coaching sessions
  • written action plan
  • assistance in applying information
  • extra support: 1 month email
  • recordings of sessions available upon request
  • lifetime discount to eligible services
This one's for me!

What Others Have Said

"Judy is such an amazing person. ... I will forever be grateful."

Judy is such an amazing person. She has a keen insight and a genuine concern for those who reach out to her. In my own situation, brick by brick she helped me tear down walls that I had built, and I was able to re-establish a relationship that at one point seemed hopeless. I will forever be grateful.

~ Mike F, Stepdad / Husband

"Judy was extremely helpful, and had some suggestions I had not done before."

Judy was extremely helpful, and had some suggestions that I had not done before. She encouraged me to take action and also take a step back in the same sense. Confirmed some things I have been dealing with, and suggestions on how to accomplish what I want to, or at least try to do! I would suggest anyone and everyone to speak with Judy. You will not regret it.

~ Mandy P, married

Judy helped us "establish the foundation and fundamentals toward a stable and happy marriage..."

Are you a loving father who found your soulmate in a second marriage, who sometimes feels imprisoned by the same court system who divorced you from the demon who managed the hell of your first marriage? Do you wish you had a guide and a partner to help you cope with communication, feelings, and pressures of parenthood, and being a good partner to your wonderful wife? Then turn to Judy Graybill who gave me and helped me develop coping skills to help manage my own emotions in the midst of the manipulative communications [from my ex-wife] in order to appropriately compartmentalize my worst mistake I ever made [i.e. first marriage]. Judy’s active listening and engagement directly influenced how me and my wife work together towards the good life (in the midst of a pandemic) and my wife being the best bonus mom ever to my son. Judy’s availability and punctuality helped us establish the foundation and fundamentals toward a stable and happy marriage, that marginalizes anything that tries to bring us down, and highlight all that helps us fly. If you want what I have, in your life, hire Judy Graybill.

~ Joshua, dad/husband

"very insightful counseling, offering both feedback and specific techniques."

Judy provided very insightful counseling, offering both feedback and specific techniques. She was always professional, compassionate, and focused on the welfare of our family.

~ Mary, Mom / Wife

"Judy will provide insight and perspective that you've probably never experienced."

If you’re looking for a relationship coach or you’re already considering working with Judy, then I’d seriously urge you to make the jump. Whether you feel like you’re in the perfect relationship or that you’re struggling, I have absolutely no doubt that Judy will provide massive value. She has an uncanny ability to provide insight and perspective that you’ve probably never experienced. Most importantly though, she knows that you’re the only person who truly knows about your situation, and uses powerful questions to draw out and use your own, innate knowledge.

~ Daniel McKenna, boyfriend

"Judy helped me to feel empowered... I feel much more in control."

Sometimes I get very sad and frustrated about my grown stepdaughter’s refusal to relate to me, and I start to feel like a victim. Judy helped me to feel empowered, and to recognize that my choice to disengage is a powerful choice, which actually reflects my caring, both for her and for my husband. Now my focus is on learning what I am supposed to learn from the situation, and I feel much more in control.

~ Joan Sarin, Mom and StepMom

Judy "knows how to apply that education with real-world situations... achieves great real-world results."

I’ve known Judy for over 10 years, and a key thing that always stood out to me was her deep desire to work with people and to help with the issues that can confront families. When you talk with Judy, it becomes very apparent that she is very well educated in the human psyche. But more importantly than that, through her experiences, she knows how to apply that education with real-world situations and, I believe, achieves great real-world results. Judy is truly gifted with her ability to understand the root of inter-personal relationship issues and to guide those people to an improved future.

~ Stan Fisher

"Judy has a deep understanding... keen insight... offers some real practical solutions..."

Judy Graybill has a deep understanding of the serious issues that surround step families. Along with her keen insight into the real needs of the children, she offers some real practical solutions to help families navigate their way. I have been teaching parenting classes for the last 10 years, through Seminole Community College and with my own non-profit corporation. Judy has become an outstanding resource to me. I have relied on her expertise to guide me with my dealings with step families. It is crucial for step parents to begin their journey of building a new family with a knowledgeable counselor. Judy is a gifted communicator and a pleasure to be around. I highly recommend her and the professionalism she brings to each encounter.

~ Penny O’Connell, Parent Educator

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Who is Judy?

Judy Graybill is a Relationship Healer and Certified Stepfamily Coach who specializes in moderate-to-high-conflict relationships. Coaching for nearly 15 years, she’s gifted at identifying where couples get stuck. She helps them develop the mindset and emotional coherence to establish long-term harmony, deeper intimacy, and a stronger partnership.

Her formal degrees are in Sociology and Psychology, complementing her certification as a Stepfamily Coach, personal experience, and subsequent healing journey.

As a child of divorce, Judy has first-hand knowledge of dysfunctional family patterns. They followed her into adulthood and 4 “failed relationships”, culminating in a painful but amicable ending to her high-conflict stepfamily experience. Feeling heartbroken, confused, and resentful, Judy set out to be happy and whole again. Through a Personal & Spiritual Journey, Judy managed to heal her complex trauma without traditional therapy. That ignited her passion to help others through similar experiences.

In addition to coaching, Judy speaks, writes, and facilitates in-person workshops. And, she’s a member of the Mind Well Collective.