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Real Talk about Real RelationshipsMy Intention through this blog is to educate and plant seeds on how you can uplevel your relationship.
My Mission:
- help more couples have a loving healthy relationship.
- expand people’s views and experiences of what it looks like, practically speaking, to have a true partnership based on synergy, equality, and teamwork.
- give people tools and strategies for healing their wounds from past relationships, so that they can open fully to a romantic love deeper than they’ve ever known.
National Stepfamily Day as a Sacred Journey Marker
Today (Sept 16th) is National Stepfamily Day (NSD). For me, it carries a mixed bag of emotions. On the highest level, I honor it. … more positivity was infused into the narrative ~ a much-needed and welcomed response! However, This day also brings up the unfortunate aspects of my own personal experience. See, my stepfamily experience ended. Although it was amicable, it was accompanied by immense heartbreak, confusion, and resentment. I’m not alone in this experience. In fact, I represent the majority of adult co-parents in a stepfamily. … I don’t feel like a “failure” for its ending. Yet, I simultaneously feel the desire to acknowledge this day as a representation of my story ~ and the multitude of people who, like me, have experienced it as a so-called “failure”. As well as the multitude of people who are on the brink of a re-divorce as I type this.
Life Lessons From Dad: Honoring Father’s Day
Honoring Dad. At the top of his game, he owned 2 thriving motels. Later, after my parents divorced, he co-owned a successful bar/niteclub. Unfortunate circumstances caused him to lose all of it. Even more unfortunately, he never recovered any of it at the time he passed away. So, he’s not what most people would call a success story. … even though his life didn’t end as a success by conventional means, he taught me more than I am able to express. I’m still learning from his life, both his successes and his failures, 17 years after he died. The story below is one of the lessons I cherish most because it paved the way for many of my successes.
Honoring the Sacred Mother Journey
Motherhood is universal, yet personal. We all have individualized experiences with our mom. And if you’re a woman, you also have an experience as a mother, mother figure, or the journey of not mothering. Regardless of your personal experience, you can likely agree that a mother’s role is important. … No matter where you are on the spectrum of the motherhood journey, it’s a sacred journey marker that is personal to you and you alone. Some will be able to grasp what you are going through, while others can’t. But we can all recognize the special bond between a mother and child, and that’s sacred. Today, I honor the Journey of Mother ~ the sacredness of it ~ in all its glory and its messiness. Even the mother wounds point back to the depth of sacredness.
Featured Publications
Articles & Guest Speaker Interviews
- 3 Blocks to Intimacy ~ interviewed as Guest Speaker on The Father Show with Mike Thompson, hosted by Mike Thompson.
- Doing the Hard Tasks and Parental Influence in Blended Families ~ interviewed as Guest Speaker on 10CBF: A Podcast for Blended Families, hosted by Joel Hawbaker
- Stepfamily Coaching 101 ~ interviewed as Guest Speaker on Constructive Uncoupling podcast, hosted by Judy Weigle
- 11 Co-Parenting Ground Rules ~ article quoting Judy alongside Drs. Patricia Papernow and Richard Warshak, written by Amy Aitman
- Stepparenting Do’s and Don’ts ~ article quoting Judy alongside Dr. Patricia Papernow, written by Amy Aitman.
Who is Judy?
Judy Graybill is a Relationship Healer and Certified Stepfamily Coach who specializes in moderate-to-high-conflict relationships. Coaching for nearly 15 years, she’s gifted at identifying where couples get stuck. She helps them develop the mindset and emotional coherence to establish long-term harmony, deeper intimacy, and a stronger partnership.
Her formal degrees are in Sociology and Psychology, complementing her certification as a Stepfamily Coach, personal experience, and subsequent healing journey.
As a child of divorce, Judy has first-hand knowledge of dysfunctional family patterns. They followed her into adulthood and 4 “failed relationships”, culminating in a painful but amicable ending to her high-conflict stepfamily experience. Feeling heartbroken, confused, and resentful, Judy set out to be happy and whole again. Through a Personal & Spiritual Journey, Judy managed to heal her complex trauma without traditional therapy. That ignited her passion to help others through similar experiences.
In addition to coaching, Judy speaks, writes, and facilitates in-person workshops. And, she’s a member of the Mind Well Collective.