by judygraybill | article, Influence Change, Productive Communication, Unsolicited Advice
Are you concerned about a loved-one, and need to tell them? Most of the time, those conversations don’t turn out well. At best, they end with hurt feelings in one or both of you. At worst, it ends the relationship. … I’ve learned a few techniques that make a world of difference, which I share below. Not only will you be able to keep your relationship intact, you have the opportunity to foster a deeper bond, thus leading to a tighter friendship. That’s why I call them game-changers! In short, at the end of the conversation, you will feel good about having had it.
by judygraybill | article, Healing Resentments, Understanding Conflict, Understanding Human Nature, Unsolicited Advice
You have a pretty clear idea what she should do to “fix” the problem. Perhaps it’s so clear to you that you can’t understand why she hasn’t done it. Surely, she must not know about said solution. Worse yet, she does know, but still isn’t doing it. … I believe that if you know what’s really at the crux of the problem, it might ease your frustration with that person. In my experience, deeper understanding almost always leads to more compassion and less arguing, a stronger bond rather than weaker, and a desire to be more supportive, not less. So here are 10 reasons why people don’t take others’ advice.
by judygraybill | Coping, Personal, stepfamily
… This would be THE FIRST of any family event, yet alone with the kids’ mom. Although we’d been together over a full year, I had never been invited to any of the “family” things, including his eldest daughter’s high school graduation. …
She showed up drunk, brought alcohol with her, and walked to our local convenient store for a little more. ** Red Flag Alert!!** ‘This is not a good sign!’ my brain screamed at me. At that moment, all I knew is that wherever she was going to be, I was going to be somewhere else.
by judygraybill | Personal, Relationship Issues, stepfamily
Today (Sept 16th) is National Stepfamily Day (NSD). For me, it carries a mixed bag of emotions. On the highest level, I honor it. … more positivity was infused into the narrative ~ a much-needed and welcomed response! However, This day also brings up the unfortunate aspects of my own personal experience. See, my stepfamily experience ended. Although it was amicable, it was accompanied by immense heartbreak, confusion, and resentment. I’m not alone in this experience. In fact, I represent the majority of adult co-parents in a stepfamily. … I don’t feel like a “failure” for its ending. Yet, I simultaneously feel the desire to acknowledge this day as a representation of my story ~ and the multitude of people who, like me, have experienced it as a so-called “failure”. As well as the multitude of people who are on the brink of a re-divorce as I type this.
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