My Blog
Real Talk about Real RelationshipsMy Intention through this blog is to educate and plant seeds on how you can uplevel your relationship.
My Mission:
- help more couples have a loving healthy relationship.
- expand people’s views and experiences of what it looks like, practically speaking, to have a true partnership based on synergy, equality, and teamwork.
- give people tools and strategies for healing their wounds from past relationships, so that they can open fully to a romantic love deeper than they’ve ever known.
How to Build a Solid Relationship Foundation
If you’re one who has a rocky foundation, know factually that you have the ability to change this with conscious effort. First, you must know that you are a change agent ~ a catalyst for change. Consider this premise: When you show up differently ~ when you act and react differently to your partner and life’s happenings, then the people around you will act and react differently to you. Your circumstances will change because you’ll be doing things differently, and thus get different results.
Do you have a solid foundation for your relationship?
One of the secrets to having a happy, long-lasting relationship is to build it on a solid foundation. The way it begins sets the precedence of how it will flow, or not. It sets the themes that will play out, good or bad, until they reach an organic conclusion or you consciously change the pattern.
My Intention
My intention is to be real about what it takes, even in tough situations. You need realistic expectations and practical solutions, not fantastical hyperbole. I intend to create some clarity on subjects that often throw people off-course or keep their head spinning in a milieu of confusion. My objective is for you to come away feeling more enlightened, inspired, empowered, and hopefully clearer on your next best action to take. My approach is a merge between intellect and emotions with the intention of igniting heart wisdom that leads you to clear action ~ action that will not only make sense, but will feel right in the core of your being. The recipe has 3 basic ingredients: mindset, heart resonance (emotions), and an action step forward.
Featured Publications
Articles & Guest Speaker Interviews
- 3 Blocks to Intimacy ~ interviewed as Guest Speaker on The Father Show with Mike Thompson, hosted by Mike Thompson.
- Doing the Hard Tasks and Parental Influence in Blended Families ~ interviewed as Guest Speaker on 10CBF: A Podcast for Blended Families, hosted by Joel Hawbaker
- Stepfamily Coaching 101 ~ interviewed as Guest Speaker on Constructive Uncoupling podcast, hosted by Judy Weigle
- 11 Co-Parenting Ground Rules ~ article quoting Judy alongside Drs. Patricia Papernow and Richard Warshak, written by Amy Aitman
- Stepparenting Do’s and Don’ts ~ article quoting Judy alongside Dr. Patricia Papernow, written by Amy Aitman.
Who is Judy?
Judy Graybill is a Relationship Healer and Certified Stepfamily Coach who specializes in moderate-to-high-conflict relationships. Coaching for nearly 15 years, she’s gifted at identifying where couples get stuck. She helps them develop the mindset and emotional coherence to establish long-term harmony, deeper intimacy, and a stronger partnership.
Her formal degrees are in Sociology and Psychology, complementing her certification as a Stepfamily Coach, personal experience, and subsequent healing journey.
As a child of divorce, Judy has first-hand knowledge of dysfunctional family patterns. They followed her into adulthood and 4 “failed relationships”, culminating in a painful but amicable ending to her high-conflict stepfamily experience. Feeling heartbroken, confused, and resentful, Judy set out to be happy and whole again. Through a Personal & Spiritual Journey, Judy managed to heal her complex trauma without traditional therapy. That ignited her passion to help others through similar experiences.
In addition to coaching, Judy speaks, writes, and facilitates in-person workshops. And, she’s a member of the Mind Well Collective.